Big
Question Indeed
Robin
Sharma authored the book, "Who will cry when you die?"
In this he
shared some very positive behaviours that'll enable you attain a position that
people will remember you when gone.
But really
and honestly how does it matter when you are dead?
Instead if
we asked ourselves, "Who will be happy with our living?"
We will get
answers to that question by those whom we lead, who we serve, those who derive
strength by our being, those who are happy with our being.
We need to
be at our best with our courtesy, respects, affection, time, language, words,
action, promise, commitment, follow up, behaviour, attitude etc.
We can use
all these in-puts to keep all those constituencies well served and also keep
them happy.
Ask this
question of yourself, "Who will be happy with your being?"
Make out a
list and ensure everyone around you, everyone with you and even the ones who
pass by you feel good about your being.
The answers
will give you your progress report.
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Raman's Random Ramblings,"
by
Raman
While
others are...
Competition
- Comparison - Confusion
"Zidh
hai khudh jeethney ki, khudh sey haarneyki...
Mai bheed
mey nahi hoon duniya ki..mere andhar hai mera guzrah hua kal, mera thajurbha ek
zamana hai ache or burre ki... Shukr hai ham ke yeh sab thaleem bhan gaye hame
jathe rahne ki..."
Translation
: Am determined to win with me and also lose to myself. Am not in the crowd of
the world, as withing me are the yesterdays and the days before, a generation
of experience, good and bad. Thankfully all of it are lessons that keep me
going."
As soon as
we got into school, we were set up for a competition in life - by parents,
teachers and all.
We didn't know
what it meant because we didn't know what it turn out to become. When we began
to know, we put my best effort. Ahead
sometime, behind sometime.
Because we
weren't too sensitive we came out unscathed.
When we
reach the workplace we realized the competition is just with ourselves.
We ought to
better ourselves, become better and better, by competing with our own selves.
We therefore become our own motivators.
Life goes
on a brings you to a point where neither competition nor competence nor excellence
means nothing more than maintaining yourself, your values and your standards.
This isn't
a weakness, it is just a manifestation of strength...
No
competition, no comparison, no confusion.
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by Raman
Release the
Donkey
A donkey
was tied to a tree. A demon came and untied it. The donkey ran into the fields
and was destroying the crop.
The farmers
wife saw this and shot the donkey dead.
The donkeys
owner was upset so he shot the farmers wife.
The farmer
came back to see his wife dead, he went and shot the donkeys owner. The donkey
owners wife asked her son's to go and burn the house of the farmer.
The boys
went late evening and carried out their mother's orders happily assuming that
the farmer too would have been burnt with the house. Sadly for them it wasn't
that, so the farmer came back and shot the donkey's owner's wife and two sons.
Remorseful
he asked the demon why did all this have to happen?
The demon
said, "I did nothing, I only released the donkey, but, all of you reacted,
overacted and released the inner devil."
Did you get
it?
The devil
doesn't do anything but wake you up by triggering the ego in you that turns
into evil intent and goes harming others.
So the next
time before replying, responding, reporting, rebuking or avenging a revenge,
stop and think. Be careful. Many a times what the devil does is that it just releases
the donkey in us.
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A Thought
Saw someone
blown up balloons and thinking about it I saw some lessons we could take
linking it to life.
01. What's
outside is not, but, it is what's inside that makes you fly.
02 Your
humility is admirable, your head is down even when flying high.
03. You are
always light, you've got very little weight - even on the head.
04. It is
not the color that makes you fly. You come out
flying in all colors.
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by
Raman
Leaking
Bucket
~ You wake
up early morning trying to do your Pooja / Prayers /Yoga but your mind is
elsewhere and before you know it, you're done with it, without being mindful of
it. (A leaking bucket)
~ You're
very kind to outsiders / people in general and speak with them gently, but with
your own family you're always harsh / rude. (A leaking bucket)
~ You
honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them
and talk about their flaws. (A leaking bucket)
~ You try
to read as much religious books, listen to Satsang /Keertan, participate in
social services/ Sewa but you swear,
insult, curse daily. (A leaking bucket)
~ You help
others but you're doing it to gain something in return from them and not doing
those acts of kindness selflessly. (A leaking bucket)
~ You
frequently advice/preach others, but practice none yourself.
(A leaking
bucket)
~ You slander
other devout persons out of hatred/spite when your views do not meet one
another. (A leaking bucket)
~ You look
down on others and feel more superior than them, judging their level of
knowledge, based on external appearances (A leaking bucket)
We struggle
to fill our "lives"(the bucket) with the so called "Wisdom"
and "Knowledge" (the water), hoping it will retain inside but it is
leaked by the many flaws (the holes) nothing but our inconsistent habits that
we commit daily.
An
excellent reminder for all, including myself, to try and patch these holes up
so we may progress further on this beautiful path of life.
- While we
lead our life being in the "comfort zone, enjoying stability, we don't
much care till we are hit by an uncertainty.
"We just don't know..,"
what
potential we hold within us or how strong we are mentally, till it is tested.
Perhaps
this story will enlighten you...
An eagle
was in a cage kept captive for a long time, so it had forgotten flying.
It was no
better than the domesticated fowl.
One day it
was decided that the eagle will be let free.
Large
number of villagers gathered. The eagle was taken to the cliff and the cage was
opened. It came out.
The breeze
from the ocean below opened its wings. They started fluttering.
The eagle
was making adjustments by flapping. It settled on a stone opened its wings and
kept flapping and flapping, while all the villagers were clapping and clapping
trying to encourage the eagle to fly.
One strong
gust of wind swept the eagle from the stone where it was perched.
While
falling down from the cliff the eagle started to flap its open wings
vigorously. It managed to take off and began to fly making adjustments to use
the wind for navigating its path and gliding.
The eagle
which didn't know its natural power was now soaring in the skies.
Isn't this
true of ourselves too. We have enough talent, skills, inert capabilities which
we can use and soar high, instead we fold our wings and sit down passing one
day after another as if nothing is ever going to happen....till someday....
Why would
you I or anyone have to wait for that day instead of challenging the status quo
in our life and make things happen rather that wait.
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by
Raman
Peace in
the midst of Chaos
A king of a
country who was fond of arts, invited artists to his palace for a one-day
painting competition, with several gold coins as a prize on offer.
Many
artists came from far and wide and got on paint their best.
In the
evening the king went around to see the paintings to pick the best.
He
appreciated all of them for coming and for displaying their artistry, but,
singled out two for the final choice.
Both of
them stood out for its beauty.
One was
blissful and tranquil. It had a mountain, tree with fruits in a forest forests,
a lake, beautiful sunshine, flying birds, etc., all displaying various hues.
The other
painting on the contrary was boisterous and tumultuous. It had a lake, a
forest, sun peeping out of clouds, gusty winds swaying trees, lashing rain,
gushing waterfall and in a crevice hidden behind the waterfall was a bird
feeding its young ones despite the turmoil all around. The king chose this for
the winner and explained his reason. The world we live is a chaotic tumutous
one, and one finding peace despite all the commotion denotes high evolution in
life by not just keeping calm but even enjoying bliss.
So folks,
that's the truth of life. We need to find our peace and happiness in between
all the happenings around us in this world.
Enjoy the
bliss, circulate among people and share your joy.
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by
Raman
We are "restricted"
only by thoughts.
The boat on
water keeps a float because it is created to keep a float.
It sails,
expresses itself, by tossing up and down the wave, gives fun for some, provides
livelihood for others, but, all of that when it is in calm waters.
During
storms it is tied to the shore, not because it can't keep afloat, but, one
never knows - it will be tossed, overthrown or sink as water enters the hull.
All of it is understandable.
Our life is
much like the boat - we sail, we explore, we accomplish, we stretch ourselves
because we have goals to meet.
When we hit
an obstacle that is much like the turbulent weather, we tie strings to the
wharfs of our mind and behave as if we have bren clamped down or curtailed. It
is our thoughts, fears etc. that introduces us to invisible doubts. We place
limits on our abilities and behave helpless and weak, instead of releasing
ourselves from the clamps we have laid on ourselves responding to our
strengths.
Let's sails
freely and release ourselves from the limits we have placed in ourselves.
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by Raman
What do you
see, in the mirror.
We don't
see things as they are, we see them as we are.
What we see
depends on mainly what we look for.
Wondering
if we can even trust what we see because powdered sugar and salt look the same.
There's a
story they tell about dogs.
Both at
separate times, walk into a room.
One comes
out wagging its tail, the other comes out growling.
A lady
watching over this get into the room to see what's happening inside that can
make one dog happy and the other angry.
She see's a
lot of mirrors in the room on all sides and is surprised. The happy dog sees a
1000 happy dogs and so comes out happy, the growing dog sees 1000's of growling
dogs coming at him, so comes out angrily.
Coming back
to where I started on this script and interpreting the story, "What we see
in the world around us is merely a reflection of who we are."
Reflect on
things that happened in 2019 (Incidentally these last few days are the only
ones in which we can see teen years, and none of us will be here to see the
next teen years for sure), keep the good experiences in memory to build further
on and scrap the old not so good experiences.
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by Raman
Isn't this
true?
TIME and Us
Let's look
at this in a new light nearing Christmas the festival of gifts.
Time...time...time...all
of us have the same in 24×7×365, nothing more, nothing else. None of us can
buy, not donate time...
It is a
mistake that time is going...it isn't going anywhere. It is we who are going.
Time is infinite,
we are finite. And when the time comes (each one of us have a different date
and time), we exit, but, time goes on.
Instead of
using our time well we use it for airing our opinions unwantedly on issues that
don't concern us, we argue, we differ, we hate more than we should love. What
is deplorable is we compare ourselves with others.
Take this
for instance...
The cow,
sheep, elephant, giraffe, zebra, rhino, hippo all herbivores, they eat grass
and grow fat.
The cat,
dog, tiger, lion and all carnivores all of them are fat they are too, will die
if they have to eat grass.
No
comparison.
The lion
and the shark are professionally great hunters A lion can't hunt in the ocean
nor a shark in the jungle.
This
doesn't make either of them useless as the have their territories and natural
habitats.
If the rose
smells sweeter than tomatoes, it doesn't imply that roses will be good for
salads. Each has its place and utility.
It is never
good to compare ourselves with anyone.
We have to
run our own race, the only choice is the pace we can set to open and use our
gifts.
Some of it
is left unpacked all our life.
Take
inventory of your stocks you hold, unpack the gifts and unleash the
wholesomeness it contains to keep you and everyone around you happy.
You have
your strengths, expand them. You have your weakness, work on them and you have
your vulnerabilities expose them to become better and strong, but never to be
invincible.
All animals
of the planet we see and know Noah's Ark are Almighty's creations and that
includes even the snail.
If the
Almightycould wait for the snail too to enter the Noah's Ark, his door of Grace
will surely not close till you reach your given position in life.
Never look
down upon yourself.
Never
underestimate yourself.
Keep
pushing yourself to the best you can become.
You never
know who you are and what you can become.
Remember
even broken crayons are colors and can give the best till they become dust.
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by
Raman
An Appeal
This isn't
just for the new year 2020 but also for the new decade that kicks of at 12
tonight.
Practice
these little things regularly
01. The Art
of Appreciation
02. The Art
of Gratitude
03. The Art
of Forgiving and Forgetting
04. The Art
of Apologizing if you've wronged
05. The Art
of Contentment
Have
discussions, dialogues, agree or disagree, but, never take anything personal.
Keep all
your relationships conflict free.
Am neither
preaching nor prescribing, am only
urging without assuming that you aren't practicing these arts.
Have found
this wanting in many hence my share.
Take care.
With lots
of love, respects and regards to you all.
Your
affectionately,
Raman
Past &
Future
Over the
last few days I have been reading and listening about this being the last
"ten-year," of this century, in fact in it last few hours this day.
Enjoy every moment this day and savour it.
Tick off
another year into history and move on to welcome 2020 cheerfully, joyfully,
happily, hoping for health, peace and prosperity.
Life is a
dream within a dream. The past is nothing and the future an illusion.
In between
the vastness of time-spaces our own existence is a microbial reality.
Unlike the
human being no other living creature spends it's day brooding over their
history of wrong doing or agonize over the vagueness surrounding their future.
Our preoccupation
with the past and future often times causes us to fail to embrace the true joy
of living each day, one minute at a time.
Some people
are inclined to sabotage their present happiness by assigning disproportionate
significance to their past. Other people escape meaningful engagement with
reality by fantasising about their future.
As I sign
off one good news I heard this morning is that India's forest cover has
increased by 5188 sq. kms (2017-2019), which is the size of Goa + Delhi
combine. There's still a distance to go
to reach our country's goal of having one third of our geographic area with
forest.
We all have
a role to play in this.
Delhi is
reeling under s cold wave with temperatures at 5°C making it the the coldest
day in a 100 years. Always know to be the coldest place in India, Saichen, the
last point on which India has armed forces gaurding our borders, usually cold
through the year has a temperature at 23°C now.
We also had
fairly decent monsoon this year.
Net net
everything around us is changing, so should we.
Am signing
off with R-3 Raman's Random Ramblings, this day the last day of the
"teen-years," which none of us will ever see.
Best wishes
aplenty to all of you and your family.
Warm
regards
Raman
Priorities
and Prioritisation
Most people
I exchange notes with these days are all busy..
Being busy
serves a natural belief the we are achieving and that we are becoming
indispensable is a feeling that sets in unconsciously.
An inflated
feeling really because busy-ness doesn't equal productvity, accomplishment or
achievement.
Prioritizing
requires one to think ahead, to know what's important, to know what's going to
come next, to see how everything relates to the original
story/vision/thought/idea.
Questions
of ourself will help.
01. What is
required? What can I do that nobody can do for me?
02. What
gives the greatest return?
Work in
your strength areas. Check if 80% can be done by others? If yes, delegate.
03. What
brings the greatest reward?
Life is too
short not to fo somethings you love. What energizes you and keeps you
passionate?
Today and
everyday after today, give your time only to those that pass the requirement,
return and reward test.
After
saying this let me quickly add, "do not forget to be a human being and care
for people.
This piece today
(the first double digit day of not just this day but the first in the
decade), has been inspired by several
hundred thinkers and writers down the ages.
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Believe
One thing
all successful and or good
thoughts
ideas
stories
messages
have in
common, is that they spread fast.
But why?
Among the
many including content, it is "trust or believability factor."
When we believe
something, we don't just sit on it, but, we share and spread it.
So the
first question, we all ought to ask
ourselves isn't just how to get our thoughts
ideas
stories
messages
spread
across to people,
but
- it is
how we can,
do or say something worth believing in, trusting in.
Whenever
we communicating anything next be it
a thought
idea
story
message
if it is
trustworthy,
be assured
it will receive rapt attention and of many too.
In the
process you as a generator of the
thought
idea
story
message
earn you an
enormous credibility and a reputation gets built.
With
integrity, credibility, consistency, clarity of thought comes character and
with ethics added we become not just highly respected humans but, classy
professionals as well.
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Keep Calm
in the Storm
It is said
that deep inside the storm there's a zone of calm.
If we are
open to it, your darkest days are when you get the best lessons.
Tough times
don't last, tough people do. It is at those times we get to learn about life,
leadership and people. That's when you'll love to come and work everyday.
It is true
that most aren't comfortable with the demands of the jobs. It is true one can
never ever feel relaxed in a demanding job
as they are when they have grip of the systems in place.
When we get
into a role it is a new role obviously, and we try getting to know people,
because we have known the systems and so we basically get our feet under the desk. This takes time.
Added to all this with technology in the forefront everything is visible out
there. People can gauge what we do and some could judge too. So the stress
increases. Over a space of time we get to know people and systems and also get
our feet under the desk. It will be good to let it go there on. The problem
comes when we try wearing a mask, instead of being authentic and our true self.
"If
you want to be within yourself think and be like a microscope. If you want to
go far think and be like the binoculars. If you want to go further than all of
that think and be like a telescope."
You have
all the choices.
Remember -
great leaders see much farther than most.
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by
Raman
You are this...if
We say
someone has integrity, when one does the right thing always, even when no one
is watching us.
Integrity
can't be bought as it is never on sale.
People with
Integrity are not just respected but, also trusted.
People with
integrity are known to display abundance of humility with generousity in thought,
word and deed.
People of Integrity
also
have the Patience
and Poise of a Monk.
The Courage
and Conviction of a Warrior.
The Innocence
and Imagination of a Child.
You are the
judge of who you are..
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Reactive
Thinking
Here's a
sensible cohesive piece - an example of how we think in a particular moment and
how we react immediately.. read on
I am ugly.
So don't
try to convince me that,
I am a
beautiful person.
Because at
the end of the day
I hate
myself in every single way.
And am not
going to lie to myself saying,
"There's
beauty inside of me that matters,"
So rest
assured, I'll remind myself
That I am a
worthless, terrible person,
And nothing
you'll say, will make me believe
I still
deserve love
Because no
matter what
I am not good
enough to be loved
And am in
no position to believe that
Beauty
doesn't exist in me
Because,
whenever look in the mirror, I always think
Am I as ugly
as people think and say?
Now,
instead of reacting, we were to step back and think about it, the perception
changes completely.
Read this same
piece again from the bottom to the top and see the difference.
Lesson -
Respond, don't react.
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Seems
Slow...but...!!!
I came
across a quite recently.
"When
passion goes away, it is the practice that sustains it." ~ Jeff Goins
I kept
thinking about these simple but impactful words for over a few weeks and when I
looked back I realized, when things went out of control, when we experienced
setbacks as a part of growing, were a result of failing on promises or over-commiting.
What saved
the day was, "the practice - which are a set of habits, rituals, processes
and plans that are scheduled to support the goal."
It may make
sense to you too.
Just look
at this....
Focus on
the habit, result will flow in by itself. With most things frequency is what
matters.
Make the
habit small and repeatable. Then make it difficult with consistent practice.
Don't binge. Nibble.
Don't do
something big and/or audacious. Do something small and right consistently.
The secret
to breakthrough be it goals or even the change you want to make is doing it
consistently bit by bit. It isn't the big things that change our lives our world,
it's the small things that add up over time.
Drip by
drip as Seth Godin likes to say.
It's not
the passion, but the practice that usually sustains us.
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by
Raman
Disclaimer
Note :
The
expressions here are purely personal and in no way, my intent to impose my
thoughts or views on anyone. You have your choices.
Have An
Imperfect Plan
You must be
thinking this is odd isn't it?
People plan
for ideally perfect products and perfect
customers. This helps business grow.
However, in
reality trying to be perfect or to have a perfect customer is difficult. We
could have some days when things don't go exactly as expected.
Great
companies work hard to delight their customers even during those disappointing
moments.
They get busy
trying to workout more on apologing and take a bow.
However great
we may be, whatever good we might do, there could be just a small slip and one
can falter. It is humility, regret and apology that makes them greater.
Arrogance
and pride can never take anyone the distance one can actually go if they use
their potential completely.
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GA-GA ->
GET ATTENTION vs GIVE ATTENTION
Everything
we do is to show up our talent to meet our purpose, we work with passion, using
the skills we have acquired.
Don't we
all know how difficult it is to do all this in "unison," so that we
get someone's attention and recognition.
All of this
is not easy, because talents is an "inborn gift," whereas skill is
acquired, purpose and passion are defined is unique to each of us.
Attention
like every other scarce resource on the planet is scarce. You get it for a
while and is gone next moment if it isn't followed up well with another
strategy.
It is hard
to sustain anyone's attention for long. Not all succeed, but, some always do.
What
instead of grabbing attention, we try giving attention to people to understand
what they do. The more people we give our attention, the more we we get to pay
attention to us too.
Wont they?
Giving
yields a lot more results than getting.
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Know And
Get There
It is that
time of the year that all promises and resolutions made are being dissected to
fix targets, goals and the time it would take to accomplish them.
Very often
again we all set professional and personal goals targets.
We go an
prioritize them after categorizing them which is fair enough.
Then we
need to prioritize between professional and personal. Now that is a myth.
When it
comes to prioritizing between professional and personal goals we just can't say
this gains priority over that or vice versa. Both of them have to be handled
simultaneously.
For
instance health vs job. You can work only if you are healthy. You work to keep
things going in life and to be healthy to make this happen continuously.
Take stock
of those things you've planned to achieve and review your prioritization.
Think it
over well and revise your priorities list.
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Spare a Moment
We all need
a job to earn a living. The more we get paid, the better is the savings, the
better we can afford a better and comfortable living. At least hoped.
We get to
work and become experts at doing the same things over and over again. We add a
few more things to the existing work and then keep doing it over and over
again, to become experts again in a few more areas.
The big
leap comes when we acquire more knowledge, contribute to more ideas, assume
more responsibilities, become more accountable and add value.
All this
can happen only if we can commit and dedicatedly work to enhance our knowledge,
for instance by reading more or by taking online course and certifications or
take a study leave to study full time.
Being
eternally busy with work and giving excuses that work occupies all the time
leaving one with anytime for self development is asking for trouble
tantamounting to self sabotage.
The choice
is yours to grow or remain happy whinning all the time that the employers
exploited you by not promoting you enough.
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Routine -
Comfort Zone - Middle Class - Thinking.
Always
seeking for a better life.
Starts to
feel excited quickly. And also gets streesed, disappointed, dejected, too soon.
Has goals
to achive and always thinks goals.
Has excuses
for not meeting goals
Rationalizes
excuses.
Entertains
too many doubts.
Engages fear
perpetually.
Seeks advice
regularly from friends and relatives often.
Decides to delay
action.
Talks
oneself out of making a decision seeking postponements always.
Mighty averse
to take risks.
Gets back
to the same old life.
Same routines
- home to work, back home, me my family - husband, wife, children, parents,
siblings FB, WhatsApp, TV Soaps.
Wonders why
nothing changes.
Then cribs
about everything.
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Lions Are
Never Bothered By Flies.
Flies are
flies, the spare none be it the rich/poor, mighty/weak, whoever.
It bothers
the King of the Jungke too, especially when sitting doing nothing.
Lions
aren't bothered anyway. They might lift their tail once a while ti sawt the
flies and forget about it.
Just image
what'll happen if the lion tries to teach the fly a lesson. Obviously, first it
has to give up being the lion (King of the Jungle), act like a monkey and catch
the flies.
Sometimes
this is exactly what happens in our life too. There are some many small (flies)
things that happen in our life that bothers us.
And what do
we do?
We forget
the main things of life. We forget the aim and goals of our life, and spend
time on trivial things.
And what do
we do?
Just focus
our attention and energy on the flies, as against the lion that doesn't bother
about it. It knows it is bother when sitting idle, remain inactive, lying dormant.
The lesson
the lion imparts is to be fully focused on the main things, goals (hunt), so
that these small (flies) problems wilm stop troubling us.
Goals are
attained this way.
When your
moods are low, recalling this story may help you raise your spirits.
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Humpty
Dumpty
This rhyme
of old so relevant even today.
Philosophy
and metaphors say: Life is a...
- game of
art - different forms
- quest,
discovering self
- a game,
you play different roles, one of them being career
- a battle,
the effort to execute through conflicts, chaos etc
- school, a
constant learning place.
In the
midst of all this our life is running too trying hard..
- Who you
are? (The Denial Trap acts as a roadblock which is of denial and unwillingness
to examine ourselves deeply).
- Be
yourself in this world. (The Approval Trap - a
roadblock which is that of seeking approval from others).
- Organize
efforts for maximum results. (The Availability Trap - a roadblock which settles
for things being available easily).
- Make
changes necessary to make things happen. (Lack of Self-Confidence Trap - a
roadblock which tests our ability of
patience when things go wrong, of learning etc.).
Everything
seems a challenge and as an default addition of modern day life.
Efforts are
to gain connections, recognition, rewards etc., to acquire and hold.
Efforts are
always for more economic growth.
At the
personal level - status, money, fame, recognition, admiration, knowledge for
leveraging position etc.
All of it
are real dreams that if we get enough of all these parts, it'll become a whole.
The biggest
challenge for all is "time," as they spend all their energies in
these pursuits and miss out on good things, good people, good happenings of the
world.
But alas,
all the king's horses and all the king's men can't put ole Humpty Dumpty back
to gether again.
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Bell curve
Alexander
Graham Bell was an undistinguished student which was marked by absenteeism and
poor grades, though his liking for science was evident and surprisingly in
Biology.
In this
space of time he visited his maternal grandparents abx was there for a year.
That's when things started to turn around. The endless hours of discussion with
his grandfather. His grandfather was fully in awe about the way in which his
grandson would think and communicate with conviction, as much as an experienced
teacher would. This resulted in his
curiosity being aroused and his love for studies and learning returned. He
didn't become a teacher but, became a scientist and an inventor too. We all know what he discovered - yes a
telephone.
Whenever
any telephone bell rings - it is a tribute to Alexamder Graham Bell.
Lessons :
There's no
time too short to awaken "genius," in anyone.
To be great
one needs to be very good at something.
Most
geniuses were late bloomers.
It isn't
late to discover or invent anything anytime.
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Geometry
for Success
Generally
discussed, "To have succeeded is to go from "A" to "B"
this translated in simple terms would mean to go from where you are now "A"
to where you intend going to "B."
The first
need is to challenge status quo.
The next is
tk fall back on our inner stance - our core - the reservoir from which we draw
our fuel, energy and everything we will need to push ourselves forward.
Attitude -
never give up..
Bridge gaps
Commitment
Dispiline
Enthusiasm
Flawless execution
Grit
Hardwork
Intensity
Joy
Knowledge
Learnability
Maturity...
And so
on...that the list can go on endlessly.
We need to
connect these dots in a "straight-line," without deviation.
So the true
geometry of getting from "A-to-B" is a "straight-line."
It is as
simple as that.
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To be Crushed,
Squeezed, Pressurised, Pressed.. is to be Transforming.
Grapes are crushed
to make wine, and so is Sugar Cane for all its derivatives.
Lemons and
oranges are squeezed to get juice, and so is the Honey Comb for honey.
Coconuts,
Olives, Groundnuts are pressed for edible
oils, and so is the pedal to release gas, to move an automobile or the break
pressed to stop it.
Seeds grow
in darkness much like half of our life.
So, when
ever you feel you are crushed or squeezed, put under pressure or subjected to
being pressed remember you are in the most power place, of transformation.
Always TRUST
THE PROCESS. It will be gruelling, but, be assured the outcome is usually
rewarding.
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Win or Lose
It is up to
us. It is within us.
Everything
we say ot do is done twice.
First, in
the six inches from the neck above between the ears - the mind, and then on the
outside.
It has been
the same since humanity began, every relationship, every war, every event and
everything that happened in history followed the same process which became a
mindset.
A fixed
mindset that took a long time to change.
In this Art
of War, over a period of time orators, speakers, theatres artists, sportsmen, have
developed a skill of locking themselves to strategize their mindset, of
shutting down all the noise surrounding them and zone in.
Just for
example, even before and then the Sachin's, the Dravids, the Federrers, the
Sindu's, the Sania's, the Messi's etc., of the world, and after, are all
examples of this practice.
This is how
they raise their concentration level to accomplish and to become what they
became.
It is understood
that people in other walks of life in Corporates, Business and several other areas
have adopted this practice so that they can forge ahead and do what they have
chosen to do.
Shut off
the noise around them and intensify focus.
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A Grin An
Hour
We've all
heard this, "An apple a day keeps the doctor away," that's something
for health. In today's stress filled chaotic world, we need to remind ourselves
about something we have forgotten.
Am talking
of the simple smile.
This may
sound ridiculous, but, the next time you look yourself into the mirror, try out
your smile. You'll love it. The more you smile and laugh the more people around
you will not just appreciate it, but, will smile back too.
Just like a
yawn will trigger others to follow suit, smiles will make others smile.
Attitude is
contagious.
Start this
trend as soon as you set out of your house and carry it right through the day
through traffic, through work etc., and notice the difference.
I can see
you smiling after reading this. Am sure you'll carry it further.
Happy 😊 Smiling.
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Relationships
All of
Almighty's creations are meant for a purpose.
The analogy
of the Bee and the Fly.
Every day
the bee visits thousand of flowers of alm kind, be it bunched or even one
single flower. It might even pass by a pile of garbage but still not miss a
flower from which it gathers nectar.
It looks
for the good even in rubbish.
The fly
goes past the flowers, the fragrance heads to filth and garbage. It chooses
dirt over good things.
Now among
us in our relationship with people at home, at the work place in the community
etc., there are people who are like the bees who look for only the positives,
appreciate the good things they've received, the praise the nice things in
people and spread happiness/joy all around whenever/wherever they go - much
like the bees, searching for nectar to make honey.
And
contrarily, there are others who keeping
whining constantly about everything and find only faults/mistakes in people
ignoring the good. They have very little appreciation for self or the others.
Their negativism causes stress and over a period of times times a toll on
people's health too - very much like the fly.
The choices
are with us to be a bee or a fly.
As for me I
choose being a bee with the sting too, over the fly.
Wishing You
all Happy Relationships.
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Emptiness
is useful.
Imagine a
house. It has four walls, and a big cavity that gets a frame to be called a
door and another set of cavities that get frames to be called windows. While
the door allows entry, exit and safety windows give light and allows fresh air
circulation.
Like wise
in a hollow bamboo which has holes drilled on it is makes to be known as flute
which produces melodious musical notes.
It is all
from the emptiness.
We need to
take a lesson from this.
Our life
has become one of busy-ness, that we hardly have the time to create vacancies
of time.
One doesn't
realize working endlessly like this can cost us our health, mental peace and
all of that.
We need to
create some space for emptiness time daily.
We need to
dump things that we don't need to carry, so that we can keep ourselves charged
all the time.
Happy
Sunday.
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The Reptile
and the Firefly
It so
happened a snake was chasing a firefly, to devour it. Days went by with this
chase, till one day the throughly exhausted firefly decided to end the story
once and for all.
It looked
at the snake and said, answer these three questions and do what you want with
me.
Firefly
began, "First, am I a part of your food chain plan?"
Snake
replied, "No!"
Firefly,
"Have I harmed you or any in your family anytime?"
Snake,
"No!"
Firefly,
"Then why do you want to kill me?"
Snake,
"Because you shine even at night!"
Listening
to this the firefly vanished.
Lessons
from this : In a wired and connected world you can be noticed from everywhere
when you do good and shine.
You never
know that there can be people (unknown), who will discuss about you, talk about
you and could even be critical about you. High performers in organizations are
vulnerable to this unknown trap.
You may
even be willing to forgive them from your kindness within you.
Whether the
others change or not, it isn't for you. You be who you are and were meant to be
- the best original.
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Set the Context
Give meaning
to words.
Read this
story..
A father
asked his seven year old son to get some sand.
The boy
carried it is his palms and by the time he reached his father, all the sand he
carried slipped through.
Looking af
the boy the father said, "When you go next time take a bag?
Next time
the father wanted the pup to be brought to him and the boy brought it in a bag,
with a great deal of struggle.
The father
said you should have carried a rope.
This time
the father asked the boy to go and get some sweets from the sweet meat shop.
He took a
rope. And by the time he reached home there was nothing left but the rope.
This was
the story my father told me when I was a child, explaining to me how important
it is to communicate clearly with context and that one solution doesn't fit
all.
In this
story it is so clear that the father was assuming while communicating and the
boy was just following instructions without thinking. What's right for one
situation may not be right for another.
One should
use ones own judgement to figure out what to do when and how, rather than be
told.
The best
words too without setting the Context will be a waste.
Get back to
your own workplace to check if you are setting the right context for your
communication to be understood the way it was intended by you.
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Hues hues,
hues.
Colours
have a massive impact on us.
It
influences our thoughts, feelings, emotions, personality and a range of things
in life.
Black and
white are colours too. They can be stunning in contrast and make a great visual
appeal.
In
combination with other colours it becomes even better. Just imagine our life with
just one single colour which ever it may be. Life would have been so boring.
Deserts and ocean for instance can be tedious, yet in the vicinity of an oasis
or an island the whole feeling changes.
Companies
also use colour for their branding. That's the impact of colour in our life
without which our optical vision would
have been so narrow.
Enjoy life
enjoy colours.
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Your Ikigai
Whether we
like it or not, we need to be all this
An electrician
who can mend
connections between two who don't talk.
A painter
to paint a
smile on faces that can last beyond our life time.
An optemeterist
who can,
not just correct a vision but also perspective.
A gardener
who can plant
seeds of good thoughts and values right from the roots.
A plumber
who can fix
leaks and mend broken relationships.
A doctor
who can fix
the problem of "ego" between people.
And last
but not the least
A recruiter
who can get
people on board which is not just talent
and a bundle of degrees and experience but good trustworthy human beings
who can love and respect people.
Let's MARCH
along. Have a great week and month ahead.
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Our
thoughts make us...
It is all
in our mind.
We all know
how powerful even a pawn can become when it's time comes.
Believe me,
nothing happens until we choose
to make the
right moves
at the
right time
for the
right purpose,
for the
right reasons,
for the
right causes to get the right results,
for us
or
for the
right people
who are
at the
right place
at the
right time
fir the
right reasons
doing the
right things.
So take
care of just those moments which can be defining moments.
And how do
we know what are the defining moments, you may ask.
"I'll
say, I don't know, but, I will take care of each moment as one that is going to
a defining moment in my life."
Our life is
nothing but millions of moments that make our life time, like several drops of
water that make a mighty ocean.
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In the War
of Mahabharat, Aswathama was furious on Dronacharya’s deceitful killing by the
Pandavas.
He used a
weapon of mass destruction called the
‘Naraya-astra’
on the Pandavas.
No body had
any weapon that could counter Narayan Astra.
The astra
would burn all who were fighting or even had a weapon in their hand in the
Pandava Army.
SriKrishna
asked his army to leave their weapons and stand still with their hands folded.
He asked them to think only good thoughts and push out all thoughts of war from
their minds because that too fed power to the Astra.
The people
did just that. Narayan astra on not getting any negative energy became calm,
and the Pandava Army was saved.
The context
of this great episode is that all cannot always be won by brute force.
Sometimes, we just have to Stop doing everything, leave aside all the
agitation, fill our minds with positive thoughts and become calm and still.
Then only we can overcome the Negative forces around us.
This is an
Analogy for overcoming the Corona Pandemic. We really need to stay put and stay
calm.
This
important life philosophy of Srikrishna shall help us to overcome these adverse
times.
Pause Read
Think
It's an
eye-opener isn't it, we have been made to realize everything is equal - no
rich, no poor, no young, no old, no male, no female, no beautiful or handsome
no ugly, no dark no fair, no tall, no short...everyone is one the same
thought...how do we protect ourselves, how do we save the others.
You amazing
dream job is no longer anything like that. Your expensive branded clothes
hanging in your expensive teak wood almirah have no meaning. No one cares a
damn... Whether you have a Rolls Royace, Lamborgini or a Nano it is all the
same - static - standing on it's 4 wheels.
Whether you
live in a mansion on a cliff overlooking the ocean or a 8'x8' dingy single room
it makes no difference.
We are
seeing a few of them doing some very important jobs..there are just a few
people out there taking care of us, serving our needs.
The shop
keeper near by
The health
worker
The NHS
staff
The
emergency staff
The doctors
and the nurses
The lorry
driver distributing essentials
The
ambulance drivers
The leaders
The refuse
workers
These are
the people who are doing crucial jobs to us keep ticking over and helping us
feel safe. This is not just during normal times but also during such trying
times but always. They are people who often go absolutely unnoticed. These are
the ones who we frown upon generally gloat that we earn much more than them.
But what
worth is all of that?
For now
let's take a bow and be grateful to all these people who make a difference in
our life.
Next...
Let's step
back and look at the reality we are staring at.
Some are
skeptic about their future and are wondering if their job is secure?
Some are
waiting to get back.
Some are
thinking working from home may become the new normal.
Many of
them at leadership positions are engaged in dialogues on strategies and that
includes how to take every pandemic and/or lockdowns.
The other
strategies might be think of alternatives to Annual Plans be abandoned and only
work on Strategic Plans so define new methods of going about business.
It then
means we need to reinvent a new us to take on the new realities.
It means we
need to be open to many changes that will redefine our life.
It means we
need to find newer attitude to cope up and to grow.
The need of
the hour is humility, acceptability, curiosity, learnability.
New mantra
01. Start
Up
02. Stand
Up
03. Spruce
Up
04. Steady
Up
05. Scale
Up
06. Size Up
07. Speed
Up
08. Soar Up
09. Sail
on..
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Let me
explain.
The grey is
the existing reality.
Orange is
just a thinking based on the reality of each individual.
The left side
is a statement. "I am safe."
The right
side is how do we want to define what we want to do by being safe. It just
gives one thing "I am spending time with my family." There are many
more things I am doing by being safe. "I am reading, writing, speaking,
walking, exercising, eating, and doing 100 normal things I do on a daily basis.
I can list all of it because it will get mundane.
Lesson
understand the crux and extrapolate. Don't go just by what you see, what you
read. Think more what is being conveyed.
17/06/2020,
21:25 - Care for what comes free.
A 93 year
old being discharged from the hospital after close observation, when the bill
was handed over to him he began crying.
The doctor
calmed him down and asked him the reason for crying because he thought the old
man had a shortfall of money to pay.
The old man
said it isn't that I can't pay the bill. I was looking at the charges fir the
ventilator.
Realized it
costs Rs. 6000.00 a day and have to pay Rs. 18,000.00. I was in tears and
thanking God he have me free air for 93 years.
It is sad
that we just don't care for what we get as s gift.
"Air,"
so far has been a free gift for all of us, for everything else we need to pay
(includes water).
The love of
our parents, siblings family and friends too comes free.
Let's us
care for all of it snd share.
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March 31,
2020 is the last day of our financial year. I thought I'd close my account with
this also coming freely from within me.
Cheers!
Be Curious...
To grow and
prosper as an individual. Sometimes the best thing to do is to let go off
something you already know to top up with newer knowledge.
We spend
the best part of our life seeking answers.
Gertrude
Stain quotes,
"There's
no answer..
There never
was an answer..
There
never'll be an answer..
That's the
answer.."
There are
no formulas. No absolutes. Keep searching, and you'll realize that you'll never
find the answers to the challenges as complex as figuring how to be a good human
being, leave alone becoming a great one.
As soon as
you find one solution, circumstance and situations will change.
If you
don't keep asking questions, you won't keep pace.
Eliminate
the word "certain," from your vocabulary. If you allow yourself to
believe you have the final answer, you'll stop believing there's something new
to learn every moment of the day.
"I've
learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,
but, people will never forger how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou
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Thought for
today..
Thank you
God, "I learnt that "Cost of living" is never expensive, but it
is the "Cost of Life Style," that makes it exhorbitant.
I really
don't have to spend too much even today for my basic living - Food, Clothes or
for Shelter. It was the same decades ago in proportion to my income today it is
almost the same.
Then what
has been the change. The change has been our extravagance.
Top-end
mobiles, expensive automobiles and/or motorbikes, increasing consumption of
fuel, large screen TV's music systems, shopping for expensive clothes when
there no place for storage, wasting cooked food by ordering on Zomato etc.
Am not
saying one should indulge in fantasies like this at all.
The
lockdown is an eye-opener.
What the
future holds for us is so uncertain.
It is very
difficult to predict how long it will take to restore the economy to
steadiness.
One wonders
what decisions would business take to reduce costs.
Am
desperately praying it is not going to be giving the pink slips.
I will be
looking for the figers that can wipe the tears of sadness in my bad times
rather than ever remembering the hands that clapped for my success.
Also remember
each and everyone of us goes through some pain or the other sometime in life.
Some get
lessons early in life, some in middle age and some in the later stage.
Exceptional are those who had to face
difficulties early and overcome it. Then again get to another unexpected
difficulty and overcome that too. The early experinces come good to handle
whatever comes in their old age, because they think every moment of their life
is a bonus.
The tragedy
of life is we get too old soon and wise too late.
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YOU Version
3.0
A Simple Framework
for Wellness - Happiness.
Each of us
basically are in search of just this Wellness and Happiness.
It has just
4 Elements
PQ ->
PHYSICAL QUOTIENT
IQ ->
INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT
EQ ->
EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT
SQ
->SPIRITUAL QUOTIENT
We need all
of them.
Therefore
the formula is
PQ + IQ +
EQ + SQ = CQ
Now you
must be wondering what is this thing called CQ.
CQ is
CULTURE QUOTIENT.
I'll
explain :
PQ ->
PHYSICAL QUOTIENT
PQ has four
dimensions that's connected to our physical being and health.
4 T's
TIMELY -
Eating and consumption habits daily.
TASTY -
Things, palatable to eat.
TRAINING -
Regular exercises to burn extra calories, to keep fit - by walking, through
YOGA, and meditation (as perferred), by some.
TRASH -
Saying no to fast food, which is also known as junk food.
A healthy
body gives birth to a healthy mind that if oriented well generates great
thinking.
That then
brings us to the next one...
IQ -
INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT
Humans by
nature are different from all other species on the planet because of our
ability to express/speak our thinking mind and execute thoughts.
Intelligence
is a defualt installation in our system.
What we
need to do on a regular basis is to keep learning new things, observe, listen,
share, receive, distribute knowledge to gain experience and turn wise.
Our INTELLIGENCE
QUOTIENT, is then that.
Takes me to
the next.
We are
aware of ourselves, our thoughts, our intelligence etc., so our self-awareness,
prompts us to connect with others to understand them.
Steve Covey
in his famous work 7Habits of Effective People, has his fifth habit which say, "First
understand before wanting to be understood."
If we do
this then we our Emotional Quotient increases to become influencers.
Next is Spiritual
Quotient, which is much more than the religious beliefs we all follow. Sarvajano Sukhinobhavanthu, that means we
serve people beyond ourselves and not just work for ourselves our family, our
wealth etc.
Just to
give you an example "A doctor has to look to serve the sick and bring them
back to life. The earnings from that could help him create assets, as against,
having assets as the main focus and treating people who come to him sick. It
doesn't matter to him if they recover or perish. That is disaster for them and
a huge betrayal of the Spiritual Quotient.
Now putting
these four pieces PQ + IQ + EQ + SQ we show up our CHARACTER, which comes from
our upbringing and our CULTURE.
The way we treat
people then speaks about the CULTURE QUOTIENT we develop.
All these
aspects play a mighty big role in our life, in our career and professional
life, our society and country.
With the
world being tested and tried now by an unprecedented happening, the changes
that will take place will call for a new version of ourselves.
That is
when YOU Version 3.0, will become significant.
The first
two
- being
absolute human beings without technology and
next with
technology and trying to being human.
This now
the next being equally good - good
human beings with ability to channelizing technology for
development
of the human race tackling challenges of environment and health simultaneously.
T. S. K.
Raman
Sunday -
April 19, 2020
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Sunday
morning musings
Life is very
much like a game of Tennis, Table-Tennis, Badminton, Squash or even
Volleyball..
If you have
to play well,
you need to
serve well
return well
play with a
cool temperment
and you
must remember, every game starts with love-all.
The result
could be any of the two:
You may win
and
at times
despite all your best efforts you may even go down fighting.
The only
other result is when the game is called off due to rain or other critical conditions.
Unlike in
cricket which yields two more results - a draw and a tie.
In life the
results
Can be a
win (good keep it up).
Can result
in a failure (even better because failure teaches many good lessons to learn).
The other
result is win-win (you win and make others along with you win too).
A final
thought.
Our
gratitude to...
The
soldiers guard all our frontiers day and night so we sleep peacefully.
And, at
unprecedented times like we are passing through now, the doctors, the nurses,
the healthcare workers, the sanitation and hygiene helpers, the police forces,
the support forces, the leadership, the government executives, the village
level workers.
Lets pay
our gratitude and tributes to all the citizens who follow the government
recommended protocols on safety and hygiene.
Thank you
one and all for your being a part of our life.
Wishing you
all a gratitude filled day all along.
Regards,
Raman
There's
only one WHY!
I am a
great fan of Simon Sinek the creator and the greatest practicing advocate of his
concept and theory of WHY?
Someone
asked him is there a professional WHY and a personal WHY?
He
vehemently says NO, there can't be two WHY's because if there is then either one
of the two whether it is Personal or Professional is a lie.
He adds
that his WHY is to inspire others - friends, relatives, customers are all
receivers of his products of inspiration in various forms through different
messages.
The WHO is
(him), the WHAT is his message and his HOW is through short video's, his books,
his programmes etc.
I look back
at my own self and ask what's my WHY? The answer is to inspire thoughts and
share it with others.
WHO am I?
An influencer.
And WHAT am
I saying?
Keep your mind
focused on your WHY and make it big.
And HOW do
I do it?
Being in circulation
through scripts like this, my writings on social media, my audios and videos
(coming soon).
If our WHO,
WHAT and HOW, doesn't align properly then
our WHY, will not show up prominently.
And to
repeat what Simon Sinek says, "If you don't know your WHY then your WHAT and HOW doesn't matter WHO you
are."
"If
your intent is good, nothing else matters and if your intent isn't good nothing
else matters. Be who you are and say what you feel, for those who know you will
not mind and those who mind don't matter
to you." This quote from ~ Dr.
Suess, goes very well with my WHO, HOW, WHAT and WHY.
And so does
this quote from ~ Maya Angelou, "For in the end people will not remember
what you said or did, they will remember what you made them feel."
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Changing
People's Mind
We all
spend a lot of time trying to convince people of our opinion @ work, in business,
in life as a whole.
If only we
could attract more attention...of the others..
If only we
could attract more customers...
If only we
could persuade them to spend more...
If only we
could get more budget approved...
If only we
could offer more..
If only we
could deliver more..
If only our
colleagues too thought if everything this way...
If only all
of them could listen to us...
If only this...
If only
that...
This goes
on in our mind...
What if we
stopped devoting our energy to persuading those who may never want to change
and began nurturing the relationships with people who believe what we believe,
instead?
How would
that change our attitude, behavior and the sense of what is possible?
What would
the impact be on us and on the work we do, then?
Experience
tells, it's a lot easier to find a like minded person more easier than trying
to change a closed mind!
The point
is - are we open-minded or are we close-minded, we need to check ourselves on
this aspect closely.
We aren't
obliged to catch every ball that is thrown up.
It's not
about being open-minded. Receive what comes - process, analyze, think it over
and only then decide whether to act or let it pass by.
We need to
use our judgement and not be close-minded either.
Always be a
part of the solution and not the problem.
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Raman.
It is all a
mind game...
From WIIIFM
to WIIIFO
WIIIFM
-> WHAT IS IN IT FOR ME.
WIIIFO
-> WHAT IS IN IT FOR OTHERS.
When the
mind is weak, every situation becomes a problem...
which will make
us believe it can't be overcome.
Even a
pebble will seem like a mountain.
Everyone
becomes our advisor. We are confused.
When the
mind is balanced ever situation becomes a challenge...
which we
believe we can overcome.
Even a
mountain will seem like a hill.
We listen
to what others tell us and use our own thinking to decide.
When the
mind is strong, every situation will seem like an opportunity...
we will
know how to use every resource
for the
right purpose,
in the
right ways,
in the
right places,
for the
right reasons,
that will
benefit,
not just us
but
everyone
around us.
We will ask
for inputs, feedback, we will consider every aspect and firm up things
according to our belief, confidence and experience. Winning is just another
result and losing is another lesson to gain experience.
The
differences we see here is being derailers (losers), and influencers (winners).
In the game
of life what is important is playing (participating, contributing, giving more
than taking) the game well.
Winning or
losing, is a by product.
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An
Indelible Page.
Yes, we all
are a part of an indelible page in the history of mankind....
And...
History
will remember this war against a deadly virus, brought unto us involving all of
mankind's survival.
It will go
down as a war fought by doctors, healthcare staff, hygiene workers and people
at large, not just soldiers who fight conventional wars.
History
will also remember how scientists worked night and day for creating medicines
that can contain, cure and eradicate this artificially created virus.
History
will remember this war as one that was fought by soap, sanitizers and not by
bullets, shells, rockets or bombs.
History
will remember thst this battle was not fought on the battlegrounds, but by us
in our homes along with everyone's prayer and support.
History
will remember the sacrifices of the many poor innocents who lost their lives
unsuspecting.
History
will also remember with gratitude the survivors of this virus and their
personal stories to enable us protectect ourselves adhering to the protocols.
History
will also remember the leadership of the tallest leader of their country and
the world will be willing to seek advise from.
History
will not forgive anyone for brought this misery on humankind to gain supremacy
by power or for economy or both.
Take cover,
stay home, stay safe.
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A Major
Shift
The world
is changing its perception at the speed of light.
The ways of
life are changing, life styles are changing, working styles are changing.
How can we
afford to be stuck in the past and try looking forward?
There is
nothing from the past that anyone can tell us about what we are going through
for the last month or so across the globe.
According
to in-puts I receive :
People are
listening a lot better.
Are
seemingly more disciplined and more accountable.
Are able to
build more trust now.
Are
communicating much better now.
Are able to
show more presence and productive
contributions now.
Are able to
establish better connections and are much more involved and engaged now.
Are more
impeccable with their word now.
There are
others who say most people are open to feedback now.
Only thing
hoped is that
- people
don't take it as personal and view it only as a feedback on out-put.
- people
don't assume too many things and so ask a lot many questions to get clarity.
- people
become more patient, as the pressure of WFH is a lot higher..
Summarily
therefore, it seems the
Volatility
has now moved to become Versatility
Uncertainity
has now become a New Equity
Complexity
has now become Creativity
and
Ambiguity
has become the latest Agility.
The current
VUCA has certainly boosted the Overall
Confidence of people.
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Inner
Scorecard
We
regularly measure our status and our progress, with what we see externally.
We have
grown in the lap of comparison, when our mothers used to rant about our first
tooth, then on it continues to school from day one into higher studies where it
escalates to marks, percentage, distinction and what not.
We are by
this time actually aware of all that is needed for external dressing up to make
us feel smart in front of others. We want to feel remarkable in the eyes of the
others. We have all learnt and work by what Warren Buffet, calls the ouuter
score card often on the expense of what is right and what is right for us.
If what's
on our inner score card grounds us, we must get into the act of prioritizing
those things. Inner score cards are essential for individuals and organizations
are alike.
Now the
point is what are things you are proud of and makes you feel remarkable.
What's on
your inner scorecard?
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"Coping
With Transitions,” Like A Butterfly...
Transitions,
are usually changes that occur in predictable patterns, that we find
comforting, but, are essential parts of learning, growing and getting ahead in
life.
The
transition that is happening now is unpredictable, but, the process and
learning is the same.
THE HUNGRY
CATERPILLAR
Nourish
yourself with experiences. You can learn from anyone you meet. Challenging or
easy ALL are important to you for your future form.
COCOONING
Retreat,
rest and practice self-care. Enjoy the flow of creativity and inspiration that
comes from a place of quiet contemplation.
METAMORPHOSIS
Outside
appearance may appear unchanged, but, nourishment from those new experinces and
the time to retreat and rest transforms us into a new being.
BEAUTIFUL
BUTTERFLY
Emerging
from its cocoon, wings have formed leaving behind the old ways of being.
The old
mindset of crawling is now transformed by a growth mindset of flying.
The
butterfly is now ready to wing it's way
forward with courage sharing its hues and beauty with the world.
Hoping you
all will be like the "butterfly," transitioning through the most
difficult period mankind has ever known.
Rest,
relax, stay at home, stay safe and enjoy your weekend.
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One
World...Different People
When we see
the world from our eyes, we see the same.. but, how we feel or how we think.
Then your world and mine looks completely different to my world, not because of
economic or social factors, but, because of
our beliefs, as it shapes the way we see the world.
One is born
in a 5-Star hospital, another in the hands of a mid-wife...both survived...
One woke up
from a warm soft bed, another from the cold hard floor...both slept well..
One went to
a modern private school another to a government school, but, both ended up from
the same college..got the same education..only levels of knowledge and wisdom
and how it shaped their life later differed..
One grew
rich and arrogant, the other ordinary and humble...they lived in their
worlds...
One wore
expensive clothes, the other ordinary...bith clothed to converse their
nakedness...
One ate
rich food every meal, the other ate simple...both fulfilled their hunger.
One drove
expensive cars the other used public transport, both got to work...
One might
read this message from an expensive iPhone6+ and the other from an ordinary
Smartphone, the message remains the same...
Just
because my neighbor has amassed possessions, it doesn't mean we are failures if
we don't...the point is how we have impacted another's life...
Happiness
doesn't come from having everything but by having enough to live and putting
those resources for maximum yield.
Happiness
isn't having a lot of what we like, but, liking what we have and learning to
make the most of it by giving and sharing!!!
It's about
how we see ourselves!!! Happiness is a state of mind!!!
Lifestyle
isn't a competition, whatever paths, lanes or roads we take the final
destination we all reach is the same..
Change your
thinking...
Own your
beliefs
Mould your
mind...
Process the
inputs...
Renew
yourself...
Rejuvenate
yourself
Reboot
Rebuild
Review
Reward
yourself...
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EGO.. is
the ENEMY
There's one
virus in all of us the is a permanent resident - and that is our EGO.
Whether we
realize it, accept it, or not we all have it in us. Some have a little..
Some have a
little more..
Some have a
lot...lot more..
We will
know about this if we reflect on it...
01.
Wherever we are, whatever we do, our worst enemy - EGO - dwells in all of
us...only the degree° varies.
02. People
with ambitions, talents, drives, and potential are hampered, as EGO comes within
their territory too..
03.
Self-Confidence becomes arrogance, assertiveness becomes obstinacy and
self-assurance becomes reckless abandon.
EGO is the ENEMY
of all What you Want and What you Have.
It helps
being a student all our life...by being...
HUMBLE in
our ASPIRATIONS and AMBITIONS.
GRACIOUS in
our SUCCESS and VICTORIES,
and
RESILENT In
our FALL or FAILURES.
Just think of
the little creatures like the ants, bees,
squirrels and the like of insects and animals...they never showed their "EGO"
ever, but if the ever do, we all can imagine what the consequences can be...
If you
can't believe what I say, just think of the invisible microcosmic virus called
CARONA/COVID19 and the havoc it has caused making human go on their
"knees," as if in surrender.
The world
is at a standstill, reminding us probably it is time to shun our EGO.
Pause,
Ponder and Position yourself for a better start beginning now...
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Raman
Fear of Failure
"I
don't know," are three of the hardest words for fallible human beings to
say.
We will
avoid it at all costs, at every turn, every step, because, in our thinking,
giving the wrong answer, is worse than none at all.
But, we are
ignorant of the fact that mistakes are not failings and that it is data from
which we all can learn.
Every
failure inches us close to progress.
A wrong
turn is a simple sign that you are still on the journey.
Build the
trust engine
- Care more
for others and more than what others will care for them, and do this genuinely,
without expectation.
- Give the best
of all that you have and always.
- Give the
others an opportunity to express how they feel, and make the climate
congenial/cordial to speak their minds freely.
- Absorb
the truth without being defensive and make amends.
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Reboot....Restart,
Resume
Right now
none of us can tell what the future holds.
It is easy
to get upset over things around us now. No point wasting precious time and
energy plotting things that might turn out to be.
But, acting
urgently making the immediate moves right and asking critical questions and
doing that more often you and in turn your organization will be prepared for
better outcomes.
Change your
MINDSET now. Be a THERMOSTAT for your home and do not let anything disturb your
inner peace. Any one can MINE FAULTS but only a few can MINE GOLD.
Adopt a
leadership perspective and seize the moment of truth.
- Cultuvate
good ethics - personally/professionally.
- Honor
commitments made, get things done on-time.
- Don't
give excuses, block out distractions, become emotionally intelligent.
-
FOCUS...FOCUS...FOCUS...
on just a
single thing....all of us know what we can be by claiming to be multi-skilled
(walking on the treadmill), all action but static.
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17/06/2020,
21:25 - Fear
It is said
that a river trembles before entering the sea.
It even
gets pushed back.
It looks
back at the journey from the mountain top, creating a path for itself,
overcoming all obstacles and in fact, even creating new paths.
From the
peak of the mountains, down as a stream crossing roads and villages it gives
life to everything in it's path.
Generations
after generation it has been the only other source after the sun, that has
helped raise new civilizations and life.
All that is
mere history now as it confronts the ocean, so vast, and it also means it will
disappear forever.
Poor river,
it has no other way, as it can go back either.
In fact,
the truth is nobody can ever go back either.
The only
way forward is to risk the merger which is inevitable.
The fear
disappears when it merges for now it is no longer a river, but, an ocean.
How true,
this is in real life too.
We are born
somewhere, we to journey down like the river and we all keep heading to the
vastness of an unknown ocean of the Almighty of which we become a part.
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Learn,
Unlearn, Relearn...
The "pandemic,"
as we all know wasn't just humanity's fight against nature for survival, it
also revealed the "ugly face," of man's lust for power and supremacy.
The events
that unfolded speaks of the hysteria, the backlash, the acceptance, the
challenge - graduating to self-less action - humanity first.
The
questions that come up are :
- Will this
bring about a change in human behaviour?
- Will this
bring about a change in our life style - particularly the work life style?
- Will it
bring about a change in business too?
We all know
tomorrow isn't going to be the same ever, as any of the by-gone of yesterdays
or yesteryears.
New
business opportunities will begin to emerge, new technologies will be adopted
that will usher in a new work style...it is all a question of perspective.
The
paradigm shift is happening.
It isn't
about out-of-the-box thinking anymore.
It'll be a
great opportunity for fixing all that broke, develop the existing and disrupt
business for new creations.
A great
maxim that gas stood the test of times "LEARN, UNLEARN, RELEARN,"
needs to be understood in the new context, because old ways can never address
the new realities - the unforeseen and the unpredictable.
The "pandemic,"
was also a testament that the fittest companies were often the ones that were
the quickest to "LEARN, UNLEARN AND
RELEARN," were the quickest to adapt and innovate too in challenging
times.
Curious to
know your thoughts on what the future holds - be it for business, life style,
work style, education, travel etc.
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A lesson
for a lifetime
If someone
does us a favour or helps us, we think that returning the favour is a must.
Whether we do it well or not is another matter.
Most people
do this as an act of balancing, though we have all been told that calculating
favours and help isn't done.
But, the
lesson that is important for us to know when we help or do a favour is that we
communicate that we are there for that person during hard times and that we are
not friends for good times alone. This way we strengthen the bonds with people
and we help build long lasting if not ever lasting relationships.
What or Whom
are you taking for granted !
A disciple
of a Guru wasn't happy with the space in his house, so he went and complained
to his Guru.
The Guru
listened to his woes and asked him to also take his ten buffaloes too into his
house.
The surprised
disciple did this and found that the space was further cramped.
He went
back to the Guru once again to complain.
Seeing his
the Guru said, "I know you have five goats too, now take them too into
your house !"
The
suprised disciple did what the Guru told him and found there was no more room
for anything else.
He ran to
the Guru yet again.
On seeing
him the Guru said, drive away the buffalos and the goats.
The
disciple was at his wits end...first he was asked to admit all the buffaloes,
then admit the goats and mow he was being asked to drive all those animals
away.
Anyway,
being an obedient disciple he went home and drove the buffaloes and the goats
outside, and found there was so much of space in the house now.
Now that
what happens when we aren't happy with what we have.
We look for
more, something else happens and again something else happens.
When we sit
back and think it over we realize we sweat for nothing.
By making
tiny adjustments or alterations we can get more.
What we
need to do is to take stock of what we have.
Are we
taking things or people for granted and look for more?
That's when
it begins to hurt!
Check back
in your own life, with the pandemic in the back ground and look at the life
style you were used to and also look at the work style. You may have been
feeling inconvenienced a bit, perhaps a bit stressed too. But, now that it has
been over forty days of the lockdown you've got adjusted to the new style be it
for life or at work.
Perhaps it
is appropriate to recalibrate and analyze things from a new perspective - what
was and what is to redefine what will be...
Cheers!
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Raman
The Lost
Art of Storytelling
Our
ancestors - great grandparents, grandparents all - couldn't script a Tweet or
send WhatsApp text messages or update FB or Instagram page nor even send an
eMail, but, they possessed a lot many life skills (DIY - Do it Yourself), and
were the GOOGLE of our times. We don't think much of any of them or any of
those things and also forget that we are here today because of them and the
lessons they imparted through stories.
The
generations of the past knew - how to build fire, knit clothes, grow and
preserve food and many more things including the art of storytelling.
Each of
them were such masters at the art that all of us put together would make just
one.
They told
stories to pass on skills, to make sense of their world and to share that
understanding. They also did that to earn the trust and cooperation of all.
That makes sense, doesn't it?
Yes!
We need
these skills more than we realize.
We need
stories and also skills of telling stories. Some have, many don't, but, the truth
is all of us have stories and a lot of them.
Sit back
and think.
What
stories will you weave today and why will it matter to the people who hear
them?
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What will
you do when the lockdown is lifted...?
Seriously...
what will you do...put your hand on your heart..and be true to tell what you
will do...
Will you
hurry to a friends house for a drink?
Or will you
watch sunsets as the sky turns ink...
Will you
rush to shop in the largest mall?
Or will you
still find music in the koyal's call..
Wilm you
join in a wild party to celebrate?
Or you will
read to your little one till late..
Will you
ache to visit the restaurants and bars?
Or will you
find wonder in the tiniest flower..
Will fumes
and smoke again make you cough a d wheeze?
Or wilm you
step aside to converse with the breeze...
Will your
evenings be spent amidst the line of cars?
Or will your
eyes paint the stars.
Will you
stomp in to join the herd?
Or will you
have found wings, to soar like a bird...
When the
lockdown is over...what will you do?
The eyes of
the children are focused on you..
Will you
return to the nights of the pooping pills?
Or will you
have learnt the "Art of Being and Living Fully," in a rejuvenated
planet earth..
Zindagi mey
na jaaney kaunsi baath aakhri hogee,
Na janee
kaunsa din ya kaunsi raath aakhri hogee...
Miltehey
julthey baathen karthe raho yaron...ek dusre sey...
Na janey
kaunsi mulaquaat aakhri hogee...
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Raman
We are much
more than....
Yes, we all
are much more than we give credit for ourselves.
Any doubts?
If yes,
let's explore...
If I were
to ask you to explain your "value proposition," you'd probably hesitate, at least for a few moments,
then...say...
I....
I....
it will go
on by putting you in a think mode.
But, if I
were to ask you what your stakeholders will miss if you aren't there.
You are
likely to have some thoughtful answers, as to why someone else needs what you
do,
what you
make,
what you
serve,
what you
offer/sell.
As you can
see here it is the language used and the question that sent you on the - back
foot, and the other made it possible to come on the front foot.
So one way
to go about this is to have a picture of your "value creation," in
your mind always, meaning what can or will happen...
Without us
fewer people...
can.....
are......
feel....
have..
do......
become...
By filling
these things up we will begging to tell better stories about our "value
proposition."
Know your
true value...
Sit back
and script your list.
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Thoughts to
ponder over.
We all have
two eyes but our opinions aren't the same ever. Our views differ.
We have two
ears but even when we hear the same we don't decipher it the same. Our
perceptions differ.
Humans are
strange, they have egos because of their knowledge, but, have just no knowledge
about the ego each one carries.
The letter
"O" is the beginning of "Opportunity," but, "O"
doesn't figure in Yesterday, once in Today and twice in Tomorrow. What does that mean?
Pain is
unavoidable, but, suffering in optional.
Never
ignore the one who cares for you and loves you, for you never know you've lost
the moon counting the stars.
Sometimes
life doesn't give you what you want. It isn't because you don't deserve it, it
is because you deserve it more and that sometimes isn't good for you.
People who
matter don't judge and people who judge don't matter.
The most
distinguished characteristic of successful people is that they are curious
always wanting to learn. They know change is inevitable and are willing to
change. They are flexible mind and swift in their action.
When the
road is beautiful don't worry about the destination and when the destination is
good don't worry about the road.
It isn't
just our messages to influence people, but, our life should become a message
for others. That's ultimate influencing.
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Raman
Life... Football...
Reality...
There are
quite a few things similar to real life and a game of football.
Goals make
both, life and football meaningful.
You need to
think...unilaterally....
You need to
plan...comprehensively...
You need to
look...around 360°...
You need to
move...constantly...
You need to
find space...always...
You need to
help others...if you have to win, learn or gain experience to get to your
goals...
If we keep
the basics right, in the end, you will appreciate and realize that everything
is so easy and simple, isn't it...?
If yes,
let's stop working overtime trying to complicate it...
Let's...
Live
without pretending
Love
without depending
Listen
without deafening
Dwell
without depending
Speak
without offending
Reality is
that everyone want to be a diamond without wanting to be cut...
Some people
look for beauty wherever they go, some transform everyone and everything to
look beautiful wherever they go, whenever they go, everytime they go..
They leave
a legacy...
They remain
to be legends...
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Experts
aren't simple ever.
A group of
doctors sipping tender coconut water after their morning walk saw a man limping
towards them.
"He
has arthritis is his Left Knee," said one doctor.
"He
has Pantar Faciitis," said another.
""He
just has an Ankle Sprain," said the third.
The fourth
thumped, "The man can't lift or bend his knee, he looks to have impaired
Motor Neurons."
"But
to me he seems to have a Hemeplegia Scissors Gait," declared the fifth.
Now before
the sixth could proclaim his diagnosis, the man approached them and asked,
"Where can I find a cobbler nearby, who can nend my biting shoes?"
This is how
exactly Experts speak on Social Media - WgatsApp, FB, Twitter, Instagram,
Telegram, YouTube, Podcasts on TV Interviews, on every platform they speak.
Wondering how
many of them ever primarily consider knowing their audience is essential or do
the assume, judge and take them all for granted.
Real
accomplished experts will sound simple yet solid. Ajm to be one of this tribe.
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Change...
Change Your
Mindset...
Change Your
Thinking..
Be on the
Move...
All the
Time...
The earth
rotates on it's axis 24x7x365...and revolving around the sun year after year
and that's been happening ever since the planet evolved millions and millions
of centuries ago.
The same is
true of us too as we learn, keep learning, continue to learn...this cycle goes
on...as there's no end to learning ever...
When the
world spins it ushers in progress and brings technological advances too...and
so we have to keep updating and upgrading ourselves constantly...
The issue
is sometimes we pause, check and think we have understood whatever we want....
That is the
mistake we make...
The world
never stops...
it moves
on...
things
around us change...
urging us
to change too...
so we can
never reach a point and say...that's enough...that's why the more you learn you
reach a new point of ignorance...and so you learn...
This cycle
goes on and on, and on....
You stop
living when you stop learning...
Stay
safe...
Happy
living...
Happy
learning...
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We are all
meant for a purpose...
We have
heard this from several well learned people, but, sadly many don't know.
However, nature has a way of settling this quandary.
The whole
world is a "jig-saw," puzzle with many pieces that get fit. This is
an ongoing puzzle with new pieces being added and deleted every moment.
We are born
to fill the jig-saw puzzle in our home with everyone else. Our home is one in
the jig-saw puzzle of the community, society, complex etc., which is a part of
the street, road, village, town or city. This fits into the jig-saw of the
district, state, country and the world.
From a tiny
you, me, us we are all accommodated in the jig-saw of the world. We just
slipped into the slots and life goes on.
Each one of
us being unique do different things to earn our bred and to make a living, so
while each of us do different things in live for living and survival, our
purpose gets defined by what we do.
If we take
the left eye as our careers and the right eye as our homes, we must get the two
eyes to synchronize to see things clearly. That's when we say we strike a
balance we begin to see things in the right perspective. If we focus too much
on either eye we lose so balance is necessary even if it means we have to use
lenses with additional power to adjust focus.
That is
life.
Purpose
then would be to do our best for mankind and ourselves - peace, love, knowledge
etc., not just for ourselves but the nations' good, for humanity's good.
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Balance in
Life...
He lost his
20 year corporate job and was feeling devastated.
His spouse
gave him all the support he needed and asked him to try out a new career with a
skill of influencing he had.
He became a
Speaker.
He started
churning out speeches on YouTube, Podcasts, began to get sufficient viewers and
listeners. He began to carve a niche for himself. He was being recognized as
the fastest growing "influencer," and in his reflections he was
regretting how he spent 90% of his time at work and neglected both his family
and other hobbies.
He
transformed his life completely, thanks to his spouse who sparked the idea in
him and his close friends too for spreading the word.
He decided
that he wouldn't repeat that mistake any more and like he had made good
investments of the money he earned, he recast his investments on his personal
life too and divided the 24 hours equally -
8 hours to
earn money
8 hours for
the family
8 hours for
rest, relaxation, reading, hobby etc.
And this
time he reconnected with some of the other things he used to indulge in and
that was dramatics. Thus he began to create another avenue for an alternate living
by which he could either act, direct or script stories, write lyrics for songs
or write screen plays.
Everyone
admired him for creating a new life opening up so many avenues using all the resources
he had in him.
When we are
focused, have self-belief and are confident, with hardwork, perseverance and patience we can do wonders.
Let this
story spark your imagination too. Don't wait for something to hit you hard and
then struggle to restart life.
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Finding
Yourself
In the
recent happening around the world due to the pandemic, it seems most of us have
forgotten ourselves. You may for a moment also think, "Yes, I have...,
but, it doesn't work that way."
You aren't
a currency note left in last years' winter coat pocket.
You aren't
lost either.
Your true
self is right their beneath your skin under
cultural conditioning, other people's opinions and inaccurate
conclusions you drew while growing up as a kid, that became your beliefs about
who you are.
Finding
Yourself," is actually returning to yourself, an unlearning, an
excavation, a remembering who you were, before the world got its hands on you.
Don't be impressed
by money/titles/followers/degrees/appearances/social media/big words... instead
be influenced by
kindness/trustworthiness/authenticity/genuinity/generosity/integrity/honesty/sincerity/optimism...etc.
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Rumours
We are all
scared of the deadly virus that grips us physically now, but, there have been
several other viruses that has been killing our Joy happiness and progress for ages.
Rumours is
one of them.
Rumours are
carried by haters, spread by fools,
fanned by cynics who shoot from others'shoulders and all this is
believed by "idiots," at the top, bottom, left, right, straight and
centre.
Be
responsible - you can't stop rumours or rumour mongers, but you certainly can
squash them by arresting it from spreading no further by not contributing to it
anymore.
Just like
breaking the chain so to control the virus doesn't spread, rumours also need to
be arrested by breaking the chain and we maintain social distancing with "rumour"
and "gossip," mongers who can
cause our psyche untold damage.
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The Pi of
Chai
Take
teabags of different brands, physically their labels and colors will be
different the strings could be different but what could be common is the size
and quantity of tea dust in the back.
The
difference or similarity doesn't end there because what real make the
difference ultimate is that which is inside the tea bag - the colour, the
aroma, the flavour, the taste of what's inside the bag.
To
demonstrate this we need to hear this story.
At a fair
in a village a balloon seller was there selling colorful balloons. He filled up
a red balloon with helium and left it skywards. Children would look at the
balloon and pester their parents to buy it for them. He did that with a blue,
then a green, then a yellow and then a pink.
A curious
child watching all of this from the corner cane rushing went to the balloon
seller and pointing to a white balloon asked whether even that would fly that
high?
The balloon
seller showed the helium can and said all balloons will and can fly as it
depends on the gas it has in it. So it
has nothing to do with the colour but with what's inside it.
The same
principle holds good - for the tea-bags, balloons and even us - it is what's
inside that matter most.
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...You have
to...
We can
share any amount of learning, but, we can't grow your knowledge, you have to.
We can have
a lot of delicious things made, but, can't taste it for your approval, you have
to.
We can
create any number of offerings, but, can never compel experiences, you have to.
We can show
you the path, but, can't travel for you, you have to.
We can
create any number of invitations, but, we can never guarantee enjoyment, you
have to.
We can only
offer you bread and butter, you have to eat, bite chew, eat and digest it.
We can
empathize with your pain, but, we can't endure it for you, you have to.
We will
say, we are there for you and support you overcome obstacles I life, you have
to work to overcome them.
Life is out
there with everything, you have to choose what's good for you and everyone
around you so you can make a life worth remembering and emulating.
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Shades not Shadows
When I
gained enough cofidence, the stage was gone.
When I was
sure of losing the game, I won.
When I
needed people the most, I found me alone.
When my
tears dried, I found a shoulder to cry on.
When I
mastered the skill of hating people, I found someone who loved me more than
life.
I find
telling others what to do and not to, but, when it comes to me, the same things
hurt.
This is
life...
I know if I
have the courage to begin, I also have the courage to succeed, but, how do I
measure success.
Someone
tells me success isn't measured by where I've reached now as much as I have
climbed over the many obstacles and from the depths to reach the top.
I know that
the difference between success and failure is hardwork and determination, yet,
when someone else succeeds I think it is luck.
It is this
flaw, as much as many more that makes me up I am trying to correct, because
mistakes help me learn and the more I learn the better I become, as my
awarness, leads me to curiosity.
The more
and more I seek the more and more I gain. That is the difference between just
knowing and become wise.
So sometime
in life I need to run away from all not just to keep distance, but also to see
who is following me.
If there's
in light in front of me, what follows me is my "Shadow," which has
not different "Shades," but one, and that's none but me.
I learnt
all this because life, is much larger than me.
When I look
at more and more people and things
outside me I realize what my life, is.
It is
enlightenment that can make all the difference in life.
It is
beautiful if I am willing to learn, to unlearn, to relearn, to adapt, to
reinvent and to grow, else I am a statue - erected, unchangeable on which
pigeon's
and birds love dropping constantly.
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We all need
People...
Don't we?
I believe
yes, people do matter over everything else.
Let's
imagine this pandemic happening 20+ years ago with very little technology
support.
We may have
been using our landlines not caring even for a moment what the bill could run
into.
Despite
technology it seems it has been people who have helped us a great deal.
Apart from
medicines, food supplies and essentials that people helped us with, the
connect, the feeling of being together, the assurance of we are together etc.,
have helped us tide over several difficult days now.
Looking at
the pickle jar theory - the huge rocks represent spouse, children, family and
health. The perceived importance for job, house, car, luxuries are all pebbles
that fit into spaces after the rocks. Sand fills whatever space is left over
and the story goes there's still some space more for water.
All this is
only after taking care of the rocks.
One cannot
understate the importance of money and the needs/wants, it fulfills, but, it
all comes only after people.
Gratification
in life comes only when one knows to gather (people)
keep and
share (affection, love and respect),
build
(relationships),
and
cherish
(moments).
Love you
people, everyone of you and thanks for being there helping me being here and
saying all that I am with gratitude from the bottom of my heart. Be Blessed.
I was
dreaming of wanting shoes, complaining about everything that kept me away from
buying the one think I dreamt about, one thing I wanted most. I forgot
everything about all that I had that keeps me happy and going...till I met a
man without feet...and happily moving around...
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History,
Heritage and Hindsights,
...are
powerful teachers, but we are too much in a hurry, to reach higher ground, to
learn from them....
...don't be
so busy to get from here to there, that you forget, how you got here from
there...
If you want
to connect the dots between all your yesterday's and hopeful tomorrow's, start
with your back story...
Embracing
and sharing your back-story...
01.
Connects us to our purpose and vision - for life, career, business...
02. Allows
us to celebrate our strengths by remembering, how we got from there to here...
03. Deepens
our understanding of our unique value and what differentiates us from the rest
of the world...
04.
Reinforces our core values...
05. Helps
us act in alignment and to make value-based decisions...
06.
Encourages us to be responsive to people's needs rather than be reactive to
people or situations...
07. Attracts
people who want to support people who reflect and represent their values...
08. Builds
an image that gives us a story to tell...
09. Attracts
like minded people we want to be with...
10. Helps
us stay motivated and continue to do the work we are proud of...
Rewind,
Reflect, Reposition are characteristics of growth-minded people...
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WHAT IS
COACHING?
Coaching
has been defined in many ways. The essence of coaching is:
To help a
person change in the way they wish and helping them go in the direction they
want to go.
Coaching
supports a person at every level in becoming who they want to be.
Coaching
builds awareness empowers choice and leads to change.
It unlocks
a person’s potential to maximise their performance. Coaching helps them to
learn rather than teaching them.
Coaching
has traditionally been associated with sports. Every top athlete has a coach.
In the last few years, coaching has become applicable in every area, in
business and in every aspect of life as well as sport.
Now, it is
quite normal for someone to see a coach to help them achieve their goals in
their life and work.
Coaching is
a partnership between coach and client.
The coach
helps the client to achieve their personal best and to produce the results they
want in their personal and professional lives. Coaching ensures the client can
give their best, learn and develop in the way they wish.
The coach
need not be an expert in their clients’ field of work.
It is
useful to distinguish coaching from similar activities.
What is Mentoring
Mentoring
is when a senior colleague, seen as more knowledgeable and worldly wise gives
advice and provides a role model. Mentoring involves wide ranging discussions
that may not be limited to the work context. A mentor is a sponsor with great
professional experience in their client’s field of work. Both mentoring and
coaching are concerned mainly with achievements in the present and the future.
What is Counselling
Counselling
is working with a client who feels uncomfortable, or dissatisfied with their
life. They are seeking guidance and advice. A counselor works remedially on a
client’s problem.
What is Therapy
Therapy is
working with the client who seeks relief from psychological or physical
symptoms. The client wants emotional healing and relief from mental pain.
Therapy deals with the client’s mental health. Coaching deals with the client’s
mental growth. The client’s motive for entering therapy or counseling is
usually to get away from pain or discomfort, rather than moving towards desired
goals. Coaching is not remedial, it is generative. Both therapy and counseling
are more likely to involve understanding and working with past experience than
coaching.
What is Training
Training is
the process of getting knowledge skills or abilities by study, experience or
teaching. The trainer by definition is the expert, and the training course is
likely to be targeted on specific skills for immediate results. Training is
also likely to be one to many rather than one to one.
What is Consultancy
A
consultant provides expertise and solves business problems, or develops a
business as a whole. A consultant deals with the overall organization or
specific parts of it and not individuals within it. Consultants only indirectly
affect individuals.
What is Teaching
Teaching
passes knowledge from teacher to student. The teacher knows something the
student does not. The opposite is true in coaching. The client is the expert
and the client has the answers, not the coach.
Play into
the Gaps
It's a leaf
out of a great cricketer of our times, Ricky Ponting, fondly nick named
"Punter," for his penchant to place bets on racing.
"Punter"
Ponting grew to become what he eventually became was his
"never-say-die," attitude.
When
"Punter," became a prolific run getter, was asked by a journalist as
to what was the secret of his dominance
and consistency. He said, "Every batsman
surveys the field before taking strike so that the fielders positions
are imprinted in their minds.
I too this,
but, the difference is I see not just the fielders, but I see more of the gaps
between them." This art sped his cricketing ability exponentially and went
on to become the player he eventually retired as.
If we take
a leaf out of Ponting's ability and take the lesson :
- Focus on
the opportunities gaps), not on the obstacles (fielders).
-
Concentrate and be patient when on a task, taking each task by it merit.
- Focus on
your ability to solve problems (score runs)
Life in
many ways is like playing cricket. There will be people and challenges
that'll keep appearing very often as
obstacles in the way of your achieving things you want. In addition there will
be people around you who like the opponent captain will use every strategy to
get you out (competitors and rivals, will often do this), and our business is
to overcome the obstacles and go on to achieve the objectives (much like
looking for the gaps to score the runs), and push forward.
In whatever
you do there'll be fielders (obstacles) and
your job is
to get past the fielders (obstacles) to get ahead, the "Ponting" way
of looking at the gaps to score, no matter what the odds and obstacles are,
including the present time during the pandemic. Stay within the crease, step
out only if it is safe to play confidently otherwise occupy time in the middle
and play safe thinking year 2020 is the
test match of your life not an ODI or 20:20.
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What
"is in" is "What Spills"
You are
standing with a "cup of coffee," in your hands and someone bumps into
you to spill the coffee. This gets you become irritated and angry.
But, why
did you spill coffee?
Because
someone bumped into you.
Wrong
answer.
Had there
been tea in the cup, even would have spilled!
Whatever is
in the cup spills.
Therefore
when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), then whatever is in
comes out. You just can't fake when rattled.
So we need
to ask ourselves what's in our cup?
When life
gets tough what spills over?
Humility,
joy, thankfulness, gratitude, peace forgiveness..
or
Anger,
hatred, harsh words, bitterness abuse...
You have to
choose, and all choices are yours...
yet,
recommendation would be to choose - Affection, , Care, Cheerfulness,
Compassion, Delight, Excitement, Gracefulness, Happiness, Humility, Joy,
Intimacy, Kindness, Love, Motivation, Nectar, Opportunities, Passion, Patience,
Quality, Quietness, Respect, Sweetness, Tranquility, Uniqueness, Versatility,
Wonder, Yearning and Zest...
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